Manly grooming is the sex appeal equivalent of a woman in garters and stockings. Women might tell you to be modern, but we’d like to see a masculine modern.
You can’t really go wrong in a haberdashery. The well-made, classic clothes mix well with current pieces and make a strong impression. Look for the most elegant, simple pieces — dress shirts, cufflinks and ties. Not everyone can pull off a bow tie — regular bow tie wearers seem to be indulging in the ultimate square quirk. Haberdasheries are some of the last places to stock well-made toppers, so don’t miss the hats and caps. If you’re in San Francisco, get your fix at Cable Car Clothiers (200 Bush St.).
Vintage luxury automobiles are sexy. Driving gloves are sexier. Driving loafers are sexiest. I once saw a guy in first class pull on a pair of Tod’s at the start of a flight and I had a crush on him all across the fly-over states. Driving mocs are shoes for seated activity, not walking, so they last for years.
Speaking of shoes, having your shoes repaired and maintained will make you look more put-together. I remember my father’s routine of dragging out a box full of brushes and polish tins that I was under strict orders never to touch. I’d rather pay someone a few bucks to do it for me, but if you’ve got the inclination by all means get one of these and work it into your decor scheme.
I’m not really into man jewelry. A lot of guys have been wearing the same rings and things since the ’90s. “I’ve been wearing these for 12 years!” you say? Exactly my point. Lots of men enjoy jewelry and some of them pull it off. A good leather belt or cufflinks can be just as personal and a lot more grown-up than those sterling pieces you bought at Lollapalooza/Santa Fe/East Village some years back. Simple wedding bands are an exception and are a delight to behold, but they take some work to obtain. For the record, I am steadfastly anti-bling for men. Watches are cool but have been replaced by cell phones.
When was the last time you bought new mancessories? There are slick leather wallets and hand-made handkerchiefs to fill your pockets and designer frames and sunglasses for your face.
Some of the coolest old-school stuff has a note of whimsy to it. The keychain flask is suave, so long as you aren’t hitting it every day. Great for your spare keys, it’s a 1 oz. welcome to houseguests (just keep the flasks filled).
All that nice stuff needs a good place to go. Man-up your bedroom with an executive valet. Single guys could use one to show a date that yes indeed, you do own a tuxedo. Not that you’d stage your apartment to get someone into bed or anything.